Wednesday, May 2, 2012

How many ushers should you have?

As you may know Adam, my assistant is getting married. His wedding and reception will be at the Vox Theatre. Although Adam is an awesome assistant, he doesn't have much working knowledge of weddings. I started thinking...many of his questions (and Ashley's) are the same ones I get from other brides and grooms, so I asked Adam if I could use him as an example. He agreed and I promised not to embarrass him too much.

Last week, I posted a little introduction about Adam and his beautiful bride Ashley.

Today's question - How many ushers should I have? Some of my family members expect to be escorted to their seats, but I don't know how many people I will need. Do I even need ushers?

Adam and Ashley's wedding will not be a traditional wedding - a little more casual - so the traditional rules won't really apply. Since Ashley & Adam's guest expect ushers then it is best to have ushers. Ushers are great and have can have many assigned tasks. Not only can they can greet and escort people to their seats, they can answer questions of guests before and after the ceremony and maybe provide a little crowd control after the ceremony as guests exit and during buffet dinners. Ushers can be used as much or as little as you would like.

Adam has 2 cousins and 2 friends that he would like to use as usher, but his wedding is under 100 guests. My feeling is that if you have people you want to honor with having a place in your wedding, being an usher is a great position for them to hold. Once you have selected your groomsmen or bridesmaids, make a list of family and friends you would like to honor with being in your wedding. If you have lots of people then honor them by asking them to be ushers (or another position). If you don't have lots of people in mind for this position, then have the groomsmen or bridesmaids act as ushers. However, be careful to consider the level of commitment you are asking from your ushers (or any other member of your wedding), you don't want them to be responsible for more than need be and you definitely don't want to cause undo stress.

Check out this article on The Knot with other duties for the usher. It also gives a recommendation of 1 usher per 50 guests.

Next time - What other jobs can I ask people to do if I want them to be more than a guest at my wedding?

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