Wednesday, May 9, 2012

What other things can people do at my wedding?

After our discussion about ushers, Adam asked - one of my cousins is female. I know she can be an usher but is there another or better position I can ask her to do?


Reader during the service - Many poems, stories or bible verses can be read during a service. Make sure the person feels comfortable reading in front of large crowds.

Candlelighter - If you are having candles during the ceremony, have a person assigned to lighting the candles. Add them to the processional and make a bit of a production of it. Be sure to check with your venue to see that they allow candles

Musician - If you have a family member or friend that has a special musical talent, have them preform at your wedding or reception. Again, make sure the person feels comfortable reading in front of large crowds.

Guest book attendant - This positions is great for a younger teen that can instruct guests to sign the guest book, make sure that the pen is working and the pages are filled properly

Greeter - Most often guests walk into the reception and are not sure what to do and where to go. The greeter can give people general directions...welcome, your seat location is here, the restroom is there, dinner will be served at 7pm, please help yourself to a cocktail and some hors d'oeuvres

MC for the reception - Sometimes this is left up to the DJ. If you have a family member or friend that can really interact with a crowd, let them have the microphone. Your evening will be more personalized

Personal attendant - This can be a great position or can really test friendships. Purchase a bride survival kit that has everything you can possibly need for your big day...needle & thread, bobby pins, safety pins, bandaids, tissues, and an assortment of other items...the personal attendant can be responsible if something is needed. Also have your personal attendant learn how to bustle your wedding dress. The more people that can do that the better you will be on your wedding day.

Cake cutter - All wedding cakes are not created equal. Some are easier than others to cut. If you have a several tiered cake that will need to be dismantled before it is cut, consider leaving this to professional. This is a very difficult and messy task for someone who has never cut such a larger cumbersome cake. If you have someone that really wants to do this for you, great! If not, it really is worth it to pay the caterer for the cake cutting service.

Be creative when asking people to be a part of or to help with your wedding. Consider their special talents and interests and have them help in those areas. It will be more fun for everybody.

You can find descriptions of what other positions may entail by checking out this Glossary of Terms on the knot.

Wednesday, May 2, 2012

How many ushers should you have?

As you may know Adam, my assistant is getting married. His wedding and reception will be at the Vox Theatre. Although Adam is an awesome assistant, he doesn't have much working knowledge of weddings. I started thinking...many of his questions (and Ashley's) are the same ones I get from other brides and grooms, so I asked Adam if I could use him as an example. He agreed and I promised not to embarrass him too much.

Last week, I posted a little introduction about Adam and his beautiful bride Ashley.

Today's question - How many ushers should I have? Some of my family members expect to be escorted to their seats, but I don't know how many people I will need. Do I even need ushers?

Adam and Ashley's wedding will not be a traditional wedding - a little more casual - so the traditional rules won't really apply. Since Ashley & Adam's guest expect ushers then it is best to have ushers. Ushers are great and have can have many assigned tasks. Not only can they can greet and escort people to their seats, they can answer questions of guests before and after the ceremony and maybe provide a little crowd control after the ceremony as guests exit and during buffet dinners. Ushers can be used as much or as little as you would like.

Adam has 2 cousins and 2 friends that he would like to use as usher, but his wedding is under 100 guests. My feeling is that if you have people you want to honor with having a place in your wedding, being an usher is a great position for them to hold. Once you have selected your groomsmen or bridesmaids, make a list of family and friends you would like to honor with being in your wedding. If you have lots of people then honor them by asking them to be ushers (or another position). If you don't have lots of people in mind for this position, then have the groomsmen or bridesmaids act as ushers. However, be careful to consider the level of commitment you are asking from your ushers (or any other member of your wedding), you don't want them to be responsible for more than need be and you definitely don't want to cause undo stress.

Check out this article on The Knot with other duties for the usher. It also gives a recommendation of 1 usher per 50 guests.

Next time - What other jobs can I ask people to do if I want them to be more than a guest at my wedding?